Mixed feelings in counselling/psychotherapy are not something exceptional, but a normal part of the change process.
Our attitude to certain kinds of change (the ones we know are good for us, but which we don’t feel like doing), must by its very nature be characterised by ambivalence. Ambivalence about change is therefore a common issue in counselling & psychotherapy, indeed an unavoidable one.
Clients want things to change in their lives, and this is what leads them to engage in therapy. However, some changes are hard to make, and even harder to maintain, and many clients become less enthusiastic, even drop out of therapy, once they begin to realise the amount of work that is actually necessary in order to achieve lasting change.
They discover that willpower not enough, that direct persuasion is not productive, that readiness to change is not a fixed quality, and that we can influence, but not control, our deeper, more instinctual motivations and appetites. However, these discoveries don’t seem to stick, so this can be a repeating pattern.
The best approach to the issue of ambivalent motivation is still Motivational Interviewing, which was originally developed in response to addiction problems, but is now seen as relevant wherever there are difficult changes to be made. This workshop will provide participants with a working understanding of this approach, and how to integrate it into their practice.